Your advice for going to a swinger club for the first time? Have you had any bad experiences? I read this article, so I thought I'd ask. https://blog.swingtowns.com/swingers/first-time-at-a-swinger-club/

Your advice for going to a swinger club for the first time? Have you had any bad experiences? I read this article, so I thought I'd ask. https://blog.swingtowns.com/swingers/first-time-at-a-swinger-club/

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Bring sunglasses or something with a polarized lens. The dance floor lasers at a local club in Memphis will give you a seizure as these light are not just on dance floor and ceiling but flash right into your eyes in the audience. It gave me a headache, even after I put my sunglasses on. Find someone and go upstairs with them as soon as possible, to get away from the horrid lasers!
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Thank you, @anengineer! I am light sensitive, so thank you for sharing this recommendation.
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Thank you for sharing, @SorP. I haven't attended one yet. Do people just dress sexy in street clothes, or do they wear costumes/theme wear? Like, do people wear casual dress/jeans/etc or a little more fancy--slacks, button shirts, etc?
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We always suggest Dress to Impress as you are there to meet potential play partners. Don't be shy, the best part about meeting other swingers is that you already know that you have some major things in common thats why your at the same place at the same time. Lifestylers are usually the most friendly and genuine people you will ever meet and you will find some life long friends being in the life style.
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Thank you, @SerendipityK! <3 <3 <3 Then that's what I'll do. Are clubs louder spaces or quieter spaces, usually?
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My first and only experience at a swingers club was awesome. I was invited by a couple I had know for years and got a VIP pass if I brought my massage table and freely gave of my massage to all lady takers. It was a blast and a great memorable experience.
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That sounds wonderful, @DC4THEE. <3 Do you often go to clubs now? Or are you into resorts? I hear resorts are the big thing now. :)
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To answer your question Tia the place I mentioned I guess would be considered a resort as it was an overnight thing. I have been to a club here in Jacksonville a few times but only had fun when I was invited by a couple and it was with them that I had fun. As a single male it just seems better to be a guest of a couple . I have had other couples discuss me going along but it hasn't transpired. There comment was "well if you come with us at least we know we can have fun with you and any thing else would be a bonus" I do like the previous comment suggesting not drinking too much and having no expectations. I know a couple who went and had no plan on swapping but enjoyed watching and being watched . That might be an option then if others really struck your fancy you might then take it further.
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Thank you for sharing, DC4THEE. <3 I wonder if this is the experience of most single men...
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Whether is a club, resort or house party what single men need to follow is the general rule to just sit back and wait for an obvious invitation to join. Any aggressive or over zealous behavior is to be avoided.
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