Why is Bi play with the females so important to so many couples? We have actually been told, why are you in the lifestyle if she isn't bi, How do you go about hooking up? It seems to us that so many men really don't know how to play if the women don't play first. What's with this? It also seems it's more popular in the northeast.

Why is Bi play with the females so important to so many couples? We have actually been told, why are you in the lifestyle if she isn't bi, How do you go about hooking up? It seems to us that so many men really don't know how to play if the women don't play first. What's with this? It also seems it's more popular in the northeast.

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We just think it's HOT! For us, my sexing another woman isn't a prerequisite, but something we both prefer. The day will come that I come across a straight woman, and I'll respect her boundaries...and enjoy watching her enjoy my man (as long as I get to taste her cream on him).
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Never had to rely on it. What would you do if it was a date? We understand if two women are Bi and they want to play, but to make it a mandatory thing? How would a straight man feel if the female said to him, all you have to do is suck his cock, just to open the gate?
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Well if you want my wife is bi but she doesn't have to play with the female so if you want you can always come out here and play we aren't against you not being bi :-)
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Because, Like I said, We have actually been told, why are you in the lifestyle if she isn't bi, How do you go about hooking up?
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Bi play by the women isn't important to us. I think it's more important for men, in general, as a visual stimulus to get them turned on enough to get hard so they can fuck. In our case, Mrs. isn't bi but doesn't have issue with some close contact with another woman. Most of our encounters with other couples has been straight play, same room, same bed, everybody enjoying doing and watching.
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For us it's a preference but not mandatory, Mrs is bi curious has had some experiences before and enjoyed it and for me its just a turn on. But she enjoys seeing a women enjoying me. For her she not into other men and that's what makes us finding couples and singles more challenging..
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For us, it's only a preference. Why would anybody make it a requirement, which would likely dampen the mood?
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I don't think it's important so much as more prevalent in the swinging world just due to the flexibility of the lifestyle. Women can explore more with their sexuality if they choose to do so and their men more than willing to let them explore. We have met a few women who are "straight" and they seem to be the minority just as bi-men are the minority in the swinger world. As for the Northeast, it may seem more out there because the North is very....well open-minded than the South... That is a whole debate I am more than willing to argue as I am a transplant from the North and swang up there as a swingle!
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It's only important to the couples that have a Bi female. Not really a big deal if they are not. We have been with couples with and without bi females. Don't know about anyone else out there but we always have a good time either way. Be yourself and only do what you two are comfortable doing.
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For some people, but not for everyone.
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Wow never heard that before. Don't have to be bi to swing. Nope not at all.
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I'm bi and the Mr isn't quite comfortable with a full swap, hall pass yet. So, in our case, a FMF threesome or soft swap (girl/girl) is our comfort zone for our first experience. I say "our comfort zone" because neither will pressure the other to go further than comfortable. In other words, I would love to watch him pleasure another female but he is not ready for me to be with another male. If we were ready for full swap, I couldn't imagine putting limitations like saying girl-on-girl is a must! You may be passing up that ultimate experience. I'm baby-new here, but I would say that anyone putting demands that you're not comfortable with, just isn't worth your time. ?
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The whole reason we are on this site is because the Mrs is Bi and I don't have the "parts" to fulfill that side of her. We play so that she can get some girl-girl time.
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Bi play is never required for us to play or meet. I just seem to get turned on faster by another female.
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In our case the Mrs is Bi, very Bi, lol. But really doesn't want to be involved with the other guy. She is just now opening up with Same room FF play but with same couple sex. When it's just FMF I (Mr) usually get things started.
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In our experience, bi-play hasn't been that important. My lady is just now exploring that side of her sexuality, and is taking it slowly. Most of our play consists of 2 couples, with the vast majority of the contact being male on the opposite female. She has had a few nice moments with females, and it won't surprise me if she does more in the future.
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We play whether the girl is bi or not. Ues its a turn on for a guy to see 2 girls go at it. But hubby knows how to play with 2 girls that aren't bi. We have played with women that aren't bi and hubby just made us both feel special and like a desired woman.
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Seems that many couples come to this swinging 'lifestyle' because the woman is bi/bi curious
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I don't know why my posts are always getting cut off on here. So aggravating..
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