This is for my fetish/kink friends out there: As you know, I'm an erotic author. What do you think about fisting? Sexy or no? Is that something you think erotica/erotic romance readers would enjoy reading about? <3



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I suspect that when most people think about fisting, the imagine an abrupt violation of a giant hairy man-arm that's elbow deep in an orifice. I think a fisting scene can be written in away where the whole process- mental and emotional sensations are depicted. Regardless, (obviously) it's not for the masses.
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Fisting is too rough for me, won't it again.
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Fisting to me is not sexy as I'd like to have sex with a woman who is in my bed 'n' I'm having foreplay with
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Hurts when hubby did it to me but i came hard from being stuffed full
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Thank you all for sharing. I have written four fingers into a scene, but never beyond that for the reason @EvaG mentioned. I think there is an intimacy there that I would like to explore in my writings, but I don't want to turn off (or lose) readers either. You all have given me a lot to think about. Thank you all!
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I must admit, @Nuchnskippy2, I always secretly fantasized what it would be like to have it done. I have seen it in person, and it looked painfully fun, but I'm not sure I would be able to handle it.
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Nope not at all
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I have small hands, seem to help. There's a measure of pride when a lady is so wet and wanting that tou can get that done.
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In my experiences it can be very sexy if it's not an all out fury, having most or all of your hand in a pussy as you eat that clit has made waterfalls for me
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Wow @Badmothafker. That does sound amazing. Do you find that most women are into it?
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That's awesome, @Joker.Joker7977. :)
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May I ask what turns you off from it, @Johnnykatie11? :) Like I mentioned above, I'm exploring this concept for my stories, so I love hearing both sides. Some readers might love it, some might hate it, and some in between. But if I know why people love it and hate it, I feel like I can better write (or not write) those scenes. :) <3
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I personally don't think it's sexy at all but I've known many men that get turned on by it so I suppose it would be based on the intended reader
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Lol. Just the word fisting, sounds scary! But watching it is sexy as hell. Yes, definitely, I think readers would enjoy it!
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Thank you for sharing, @Tc.TCnLizsayinghi! I think that seems to be how many feel - that fisting is more of a visual pleasure for the fister, and those on the receiving end of the fist are like "eh" take it or leave it.
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Thank you, @Loveswing6777! I think I'm going to try it. I'll keep it soft and gentle and romantic, nothing too hard or rushed. <3
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Fingering a pussy is very much a turn on for me.. i always work my way up and let them decide where we should stop. Doing it this way has been a big turn on for me. From 1 finger to a whole fist its about pleasing her
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Thank you for sharing, @bebopp. I think I'm going to go for it! :D I do understand that knuckles are a problem. Hm... Any bleeding?
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I'm a big fan of manual manipulation, @Mrmbtn1966. (This is a term I sometimes use in my books when I have to tone down the wording. lol.) <3
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I like that term
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I think its very sexy , erotic, and intimate. I was fingering this girl I was kinda seeing years ago and I start with 2 than slowly3 than 4 and I'm spacing it out cause I was fingering a good 10 minutes before I got 4 and she was cumming over and over soo she didn't realize.I had 4 in her or my 5th as my whole hand went in. She was that wet to my hand was drenched. She looks down in a daze from orgasming around 15 times that's when she saw and ask "Oh my god! Do you have your whole hand in me?" I said yup all proud and smiling. You don't get anymore intimate than that
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I think you should go for it! Fisting definitely isn't for everyone, so there will be those who don't enjoy a story about it, but you'll run into that problem for virtually every sexual activity out there! For every sexual activity there are people who love it, and people who wouldn't get anything out of it. You can please everyone, but not always with the same tricks ? I, personally, really enjoy fisting and would enjoy a story about someone else experiencing it. For me, it takes a lot of trust and comfort, and a lot of build up to it, but once we get there... oh my god, nothing compares to the feeling of being so filled. Every pleasure point inside me is being pressured at the same time. It usually leads to incredibly powerful, squirting orgasms for me! Can't argue with that. ?
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Can be hot depending on how its brought into
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To me, fisting doesn't have to imply aggression or violence or anything else negative often times associated with playing that way. Personally, I find it to be extremely erotic and sensual when I am being filled by my husband's fist..
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We love testing the waves with fisting. Because my husbands hands are huge we take our time and actually enjoy the process. I am the one in control and push myself into him, a LOT of lube, and patience. I doesn't always work since I will at time tense up, but when it does feeling him fill me is AMAZING.
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Oh wow, @MsCute.cutelilgirl. That was kind of arousing to read. <3 I'm kind of excited now!
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Thank you for sharing @LaMuZe1916. I'm really looking forward to writing it, and perhaps applying it into my play. <3
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Thank you for sharing @Mr.Freakycouple4478. <3 :)
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Oh wow!!! Thank you for sharing @Ms.BigOandB! I really want to write, and I probably need to experience it for myself before I write it or otherwise it won't be authentic... I'm excited and scared but ready to start working up to it!!! <3
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we love fisting. it is such a turn on for the both of us. it leads to squirting which the wife really loves and so do i. she can soak a bed as well as me.
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Defiantly a turn on for me, and by far the most intense orgasms I've ever seen my wife have.
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<3 Thank you @Stroupe1, @pussylicker69241, and @All4funliving for responding! I'm thrilled--still working up to it! I can't wait! <3 <3 <3 I hope you all are having a great weekend! ?
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I donít know about the whole fisting thing, but it is a fantasy of my husbands to fight his whole fist inside me. This is something that I am willing to fulfill for him as he has fulfilled many of my fantasyís. We have not accomplished this yet, but have been working slowly towards it. As of now we get four fingers in as he has rather large hands. It may take awhile but I will not give up on fulfilling his fantasy. I do love him stretching me, and it does feel good. Each person has a fetish or kink that they enjoy so some readers may enjoy reading about it while others may not. I am looking forward to seeing the look on my husbands face the day that he finally fills me with his hand.
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yes my hubby likes it ,but nails scratch and that ends the fun
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Personally, I think it's GROSS, and I'm NOT easily grossed out. But c'mon, a fist, who REALLY enjoys that, and aren't just doing it for the man? Not to mention it's NOT good for you. YES the vagina is VERY elastic, but how many times do you think you can abuse it like that, and still expect tightness? I say leave it out, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING sexy about it, and my husband agrees too.
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I would love to have that done to me itís a fantasy of mine
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Probably not something romance readers would enjoy. But how about orgasm control?
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@Bethany.JefNBeth34 Interesting. Thank you for responding. It truly is a love or hate fantasy/fetish. At first I assumed it too was all for the pleasure of the insertee, but many other have commented on this thread that they enjoyed the sensation of "fullness" the hand produced.
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Hi @Sweetjlo. :) I actually feature orgasmn control in many of my stories - even the non-BDSM ones. It's one of those intimacies that kinky and non-kinky alike enjoy. (Much like blindfolds.)
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I love fisting! Tho my man can't...we have tried several times but his wrist is just too big. I love introducing women into it, because I have such tiny hands it works amazingly well when I'm the giver.
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Never tried it, but I want to. Extreme is cool and has its place in my butt, lol
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To each their own if that's what they want!! Absolutely never be afraid or ashamed for what you want in your sexual fantasies if you don't go for it then you don't need to complain or feel sorry about it just enjoy what you like that's the only thing we have that we can do for ourselves!!?
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