So I want some opinions and feedback here. My girlfriend and I are new to all this and have yet to do anything. We are not jealous, worried, or concerned about the other with another person. It is silly really, we are more self-conscious of our bodies. I can't or rather won't bring up her issues with herself since they are well...hers and she can do this if she feels the need. I can honestly say that do not I feel as if I am unattractive. Rather it is my size (wow big shocker there right?) like most other men. I am in no way BIG, I am average to small I would say. SO.... Does it matter? I have never had a problem giving my GF or any other woman multiple orgasms. But, I have always feel like with just a few more inches (Length

So I want some opinions and feedback here. My girlfriend and I are new to all this and have yet to do anything. We are not jealous, worried, or concerned about the other with another person. It is silly really, we are more self-conscious of our bodies. I can't or rather won't bring up her issues with herself since they are well...hers and she can do this if she feels the need. I can honestly say that do not I feel as if I am unattractive. Rather it is my size (wow big shocker there right?) like most other men. I am in no way BIG, I am average to small I would say. SO.... Does it matter? I have never had a problem giving my GF or any other woman multiple orgasms. But, I have always feel like with just a few more inches (Length

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Also for some of the braver men out there with average to small ones. Do you fantasy about sharing your wife/GF with someone more well endowed?
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She says the same thing and I agree. I just wondered if bigger feel better. I imagine this is how women feel about body image with advertising. Thanks for the feedback. Y'all are too sweet! So do any other men have fantasies about sharing their wife/gf with a bigger guy? I just want her to have and experience something really amazing. I feel like a guy with my type of moves and a bigger member would really make her cum hard.
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I have the same issues/concerns.. Good thread.
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I am in no way inadequate in making woman cum. I know I can without issues so far in my life. But, these women were close to me in someway. A sense of intimacy was present and a connection was made in someway. My fear is that I/we will be unable to make this connection with another person. Which leaves me to wonder if the experience will be pleasurable for all parties. I am not in anyway afraid of my GF seeing a bigger one and going nuts and riding it hard. I want that for her and me. But without that intimate connection will it happen for her or myself. I know men care about size for the most part over woman.
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It's a vagina, "if you build it, (right) they will cum". Paraphrasing a little bit
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I have always stated...it's not the size of the tool it's the way you use it. After all...I have Todd make me cum hard with just his thumb when he hits that spot.
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Wow! Thanks for the advice, feedback, and comments! Very helpful and reassuring stuff. I like most men find women attractive in all shapes in sizes. I never have had one "type" so I see what you all are saying. And I guess it is presumptuous of me to think there wouldn't be a connection. We have never felt that type of connection before being new to all this. I have had a few one night stands and honestly would say all were kinda unsatisfying being that I knew going into it that it was just for the night. I guess in these situations the intentions are different and less self serving. Also I would imagine the amount of time it takes to meet a couple, get close enough to share and then do it is far more of a process than a one night stand from a bar or concert. Thanks again! Really helpful and reassuring!
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We are still new to the swinging scene, but the variety of people is what we we enjoy the most. My wife has large breast's which are my favorite, but there is something sexy about playing with smaller breasts because they are not my normal. We recently went to an adult hotel and many of the men there were pretty small. I am pretty big and a lot of the women enjoyed playing with me. I would hope that most couples in swinging love their spouse and wouldn't trade them for anything, but we really enjoy trying people who are different than our spouse for the fun of variety.
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It's definately not the size that matters. It's the confidence one has that makes it pleasurable.
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I am in the same boat as you with size. I always dream of having 6 to 8" penis and thick. But what I have heard from women in this lifestyle is guys with donkey cocks have no clue on how to pleasure a woman orally and that is what they miss, and a lot of women are happier with average as it doesn't hurt them after or the next day. I enjoy watching my partner with a bigger package and is a turn on, but that guy goes home lonely or to an unhappy marriage or girlfriend and I get to sleep with my loved one in my arms with a smile. Hope this helps you.
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Just care about each other and be kind. Discuss what you want to do then do it. Life does not need to be a drama.
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Personally I am almost eight inches, but I will tell you after being in this lifestyle for over nine years 95% of the ladies I have talked to say if" its smaller there are things you can do to overcome that. If its to big it just plain hurts and you can't over come that." Their words not mine
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You will find a LOT of women that don't want the MONSTER (my wife is one) they want the "average" man. And as you will find quickly in the lifestyle that there are ALL different sizes and shapes. Its more of the confidence level that wins... not the size. Playfulness and imagination go a long way too.
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That sould not be a concern, as if if like you say you still get the job done then its all good as far as we are concern!
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My wife has enjoyed the company of a fair number of men and is a good judge of their capabilities as lovers. She prefers a dick that's larger rather than smaller BUT one of the best lovers she's ever had was small in stature and had a dick that she described as half my size. She had no problem feeling his dick in her pussy because she said he got as hard as a steel rod. His main talent was his tongue! He loves eating pussy and that's the only way she has ever been able to cum. So, the bottom line is there are many ways to please a woman.
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Thanks again Y'all! I know when it comes down to it I can get the job done and done well at that. Like other men my size I have been told I have excellent oral skills and I play guitar so my finger work is great I am told. I guess when I comes down to it, and I think this is for most men who feel this way, the size of their member can effect self confidence. Especially when porn and most main stream media on the topic of a man's size project the bigger is better idea. I will admit that I feel jealous of men with bigger ones simply because I want one too. I know that men of larger proportions can visually arouse women more. Just like men who prefer big breast, thick curves, or any of the other wonderfully amazing things about women. Again thanks for all the comments, feedback, and reassurances.
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It's much the same with women with small breasts. We feel that we don't "measure" up and are not appealling. Most men I speak to prefer msall tits. Being a bi woman, even I prefer small to medium size. Too much is a major waste. Not to mention that when you get older small ones don't sag as fast...lol.
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I am also average, and have never had a problem pleasing a woman.
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Completel;y irrelevant. There are all shapes and sizes in the scene and what you do with your tongue is more important. You are not auditioning for a porn movie! It's a party, have fun and enjoy each other and the social scene that goes with swinging.
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My wife has never been unhappy with a guy just because of his size. If she was not happy it was because the guy didn't know his way around a woman's body. I, Tony, find the differences sexy. Some guys only want fit woman or maybe B cup breasts. Others like a full figured lady with double DD breasts. I have been with woman who look like super models who were boring in bed. I have also been with larger woman who rocked my world. For us, its all about the fun. I want to make my partner cum and I want my partner to want to make me cum. So bring your A game and lets have fun.
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I have been the 'smallest' guy in the room on more than one occasion, but I've always put in the effort, and used the talents, and I'll say this, even in a group of bigger guys I've given the big O's. The secret is to do what it is you do best and they'll keep cumming back for more!
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we are going thru the same thing.it,s a big step so take your time and feel comfortable,otherwise it might be a bad first experience which may end thing s before they have a chance..i think showing full body pics to those you plan to "meet"with could ease some of the tension..no unreal expectations..if someone asks me "who ya gonna please with that"i always say me.have fun !!
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