Question, my wife and me are interested in a threesome with another guy but she’s left it up to me to choose the guy, how do y’all go about asking other guys and bringing up the subject? Any thoughts and help is appreciated she picked the last two so now it’s my turn



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Ask him first how open minded he is . Try and find out if they’ve been in a situation like that before, you would be surprised how many guys are just shy about bringing it up . You have to be the one , no regrets ;)
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pick out the guy ok. but let your talk to him too .
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I like what the other guy said but the way I go about it is I like to I like to find guys I'm comfortable with if you're comfortable with someone bring me the man is not that hard plus it makes it so much more fun if you feel any discomfort bring it up for this to work everybody has to be open and respectful if they're not open it's okay it's not for them but if they're not respectful don't put yourself or your partner whoever it may be through it it ruins everybody's night
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1 Are you married.
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2 do you play because my wife find you good look and she want spend time with you.
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This can be especially tricky when you're starting out. If you're considering guys already in your social circles, and not necessarily in the lifestyle, that can be tricky to figure out how to bring out - there can be spectacular successes, but also potentially spectacular fails (regardless of if they agree or not). If they're in the LS, ideally you've been able to meet them somewhere first. If you've been to parties, and you've seen how they interacted around others, then that's golden. If you're looking for fresh people, it's much more difficult. Social media sites are full of people trying to put their best foot forward - and sometimes it's not even their own foot. People can seem quite pleasant and respectful in person, but be the opposite in person. Likewise, they can seem awkward in online interactions, but be amazing in person. If coming up with guys from a LS site, I'd suggest you start with a wide net, and start chatting with the guys. (1)
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continued; Find out what they liked, what they didn't like, and what they would see their role being. Ask what they'd do if it looked like your wife wasn't really engaged or into what was happening. Often red flags can pop up in this part - easy people to remove. Then start to dig into potential real meet-up - either same day or a different day from the planned meeting with your wife. A lot of guys start to disappear once you start talking specifics. (2)
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continued: the last option is going on recommendations. Ask other couples in your area who they liked to play with - they're often more than happy to recommend the excellent guys. They can be few and far between on social media sites, but they are certainly out there! (3)
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There are single guys on here that are interested in sex with single and married women. Contact them to meet in a public place. If you think that he is the right guy for your wife. Ask him if he would like to meet her. Then meet again in a public place and let them decide.
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Ms.Blue says find someone you are comfortable with, let her know who you have picked, see if she is comfortable with your pick and go from there.
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Ask him if he knows of any swinger bars if or if not ask him if he a know anyone that would. That will let you know which way to go about asking with asking him straight out.
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