Question, my wife and me are interested in a threesome with another guy but shes left it up to me to choose the guy, how do yall go about asking other guys and bringing up the subject? Any thoughts and help is appreciated she picked the last two so now its my turn



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Ask him first how open minded he is . Try and find out if theyve been in a situation like that before, you would be surprised how many guys are just shy about bringing it up . You have to be the one , no regrets ;)
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I like what the other guy said but the way I go about it is I like to I like to find guys I'm comfortable with if you're comfortable with someone bring me the man is not that hard plus it makes it so much more fun if you feel any discomfort bring it up for this to work everybody has to be open and respectful if they're not open it's okay it's not for them but if they're not respectful don't put yourself or your partner whoever it may be through it it ruins everybody's night
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1 Are you married.
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2 do you play because my wife find you good look and she want spend time with you.
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This can be especially tricky when you're starting out. If you're considering guys already in your social circles, and not necessarily in the lifestyle, that can be tricky to figure out how to bring out - there can be spectacular successes, but also potentially spectacular fails (regardless of if they agree or not). If they're in the LS, ideally you've been able to meet them somewhere first. If you've been to parties, and you've seen how they interacted around others, then that's golden. If you're looking for fresh people, it's much more difficult. Social media sites are full of people trying to put their best foot forward - and sometimes it's not even their own foot. People can seem quite pleasant and respectful in person, but be the opposite in person. Likewise, they can seem awkward in online interactions, but be amazing in person. If coming up with guys from a LS site, I'd suggest you start with a wide net, and start chatting with the guys. (1)
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continued; Find out what they liked, what they didn't like, and what they would see their role being. Ask what they'd do if it looked like your wife wasn't really engaged or into what was happening. Often red flags can pop up in this part - easy people to remove. Then start to dig into potential real meet-up - either same day or a different day from the planned meeting with your wife. A lot of guys start to disappear once you start talking specifics. (2)
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continued: the last option is going on recommendations. Ask other couples in your area who they liked to play with - they're often more than happy to recommend the excellent guys. They can be few and far between on social media sites, but they are certainly out there! (3)
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There are single guys on here that are interested in sex with single and married women. Contact them to meet in a public place. If you think that he is the right guy for your wife. Ask him if he would like to meet her. Then meet again in a public place and let them decide.
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Ask him if he knows of any swinger bars if or if not ask him if he a know anyone that would. That will let you know which way to go about asking with asking him straight out.
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It seems many of your responses aren't necessarily reading the question correctly Being a single guy I've had a few of the same situations. I don't know if you are wondering about approaching done guy out in public without knowing whether he swings or plays that way? But it should be quite easy if you use a sure such as this one! Anyway so once i am aware of what is being asked of me i go above and beyond to make the Mr feel comfortable and hopes that this will be relayed to the Mrs so she in turn feels comfortable. Point being if you approach a guy that you know does this kind of thing let him take the reigns which will definitely help with you comfortability.
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Did you get any tips ??
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Choose some one y'all can trust all the way with your wife
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Usually I'll let her pick out 5 or so guys she's interested in, then out if them I'll pick the one we ask. I usually try to choose the one I think she'd like most tho
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Good morning Josh. Seeing as how you have already experienced a couple of threesomes before, it won't be too hard to find someone similar in regards to her likes. The more difficult problem is to find someone of like mind who would be willing to join with you both. We began swinging with friends and it was a hit and miss in that regard. There are sites such as the one we are on which will make the search far more easier than hitting the bars to find someone. However, there are places called Off-premises bars where swingers tend to go to in their search for others of like mind. A google search can help find those places. Good Luck and have great fun once you find what you seek.
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