How many couples out there meet new couples for diner and drinks and decide that night to take things further? How many of you prefer to wait for a few meetings first?



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We always meet with the expectation of not having anything happen. It gives each couple the opportunity to walk away with no hurt feelings if there isn't an attraction/connection. Of course if it is there and both couples are on board, we will take it further.
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We've only had one couple where it didn't get down to business on the first "date". We don't plan it that way but it definitely happens and depends on chemistry.
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It depends on he mood. Sometimes everyone clicks and we play, other times we meet a second time if we decide we like the couple.
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We've meet couples as much as 6/7 years ago that we haven't gone further, but are good friends. Our most recent meet went from dinner to a great fun filled evening in a couple of hours while of vacation. Just depends on the couple. For us being a maturing couple we seem to hit it off with couples that are closer to our age.
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if everyone is on the same page and the heat and sexuality is there then we go with the flow..
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A few times when the chemistry was right in front of us, but more times than not we go think about it for a day or two...then hit the sack like bunnies.
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oh yes sometimes it takes a few times but sometimes you all just click first date those are fun
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We have played on a first meet normally at a Club. We think if we click why not we are in LS to play.
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When we met our first couple, we met several times. When we met our 3rd couple, it was literally 1 hour from hand shake to bed time. It all depends on the chemistry, how attracted we are to the other couple. When we would meet a couple, playing on the first meet was an option. It's like a new restaurant do you go in the first time and just read the menu. On the second visit......maybe sit around the waiting room to see if people are enjoying the meal? Or do you go in and try the food to see if you like it?
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If the chemistry is right then we would meet and play the same night.
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We prefer to meet and have a relaxing dinner first, then play at a later date. There was one couple we met that was so perfect we played after only knowing them a couple of hours - great evening!
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All depends on chemistry.. But if it is good. No problem to play on first date, were not marrying them were playing with them. Big diferance!!
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depends on comfort and attraction .
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We meet folks and get an idea fairly quickly if we want to be with them. Then it all depends on the situation. If all are in agreement and there is a convenient place, it's on! If not, we make plans to get better acquainted later.
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Although we do not go into a meeting with the expectation of playing, we are usually in the mood as we head out the door to meet. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't, and a lot of factors come into play, but when it comes down to it, in an ideal world, if every first meeting went smoothly we'd end up in the sack every time.
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If we click with the couple on the first meeting we usually play on the second get together. We can tell after spending a couple hours of hanging out and getting to know them if they are a couple we would like to take it to the next level with.
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Usually by the time we schedule a "meet" we already know whether or not we are interested, the only thing left is the chemistry. So if we all click then we are game for letting the evening progressing naturally.
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We like to have dinner and drinks when we first meet. Usually at a nice hotel, just in case. (Smiling)
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We tried the first night festivities with one couple, but it just didn't seem to click as well. So we adopted a friends first attitude with benefits once everyone was comfortable and it worked for us. I can say as a result, I played with one of the bridesmaids at our wedding. Always liked being able to have fun in and out of the bedroom with the couples we clicked best with.
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We prefer to meet at a local LS club since getting out is such a chore with kids. If we get out, we wanna play!
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we have it both ways, but we only meet for drinks the first meeting. we find If it is not going well easier to say goodbye quickly over drinks than dragging it out over dinner.
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we like the friends thing first but im sure Manny hook right up with out dinner or drinks.. lol just life.. but each to there own and best of luck to all and wish you the best fun
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we have done both it all depends on the chemistry and the moods of all involved - to us swinging is a variety of ALL FWB and fly by one night stands can and are very hot also
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With us it just depends on the vibe!
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were new to this so not sure x
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The wife and I would much rather have those drinks first and then meet up again later after more talk to make sure everything clicks. But we also understand that in the heat of the moment things can progress and we are OK with that as well. Out first venture into the lifestyle started with dinner and talk. The talk lead to chemistry that lead to our first encounter the very next night. So anything can happen, it just depends on that chemistry.
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we have taken things further on the first meet. we feel if we all click lets do what were there for. Never count on the future.
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We have met and played after first meeting and then we have waited on some. It all depends on the chemistry and how everyone clicks...we have also gone home horny....lol
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We really like having coffee or something similar to see if we get along with the other couple. If we do then usually a second date would mean playtime.
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If we hit it off we go from there even that night, if not back to zero
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If things go well, we take it from there if not, we stay as aquaintences.
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Becouse of busy schedules it is hard to find time to meet so we r in contact with our potential playmates well in advance nd hav a good idea of what they r like and vice verca. We usually go in expecting to play on first date. But it is not always how it happens. Photo shop is not always a good thing. Lol. That's why we prefer not to use it nd that way not laying down any false info. Happy swinging ;)
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We don't get to get out as often as we want to, so if we meet for dinner we are already 3/4 of the way to fucking. Meeting is basically foreplay.
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not shure but I would think a few meets first
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We like to wait but most times we give in to our sexual impulses
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We usually prefer to go all out the first meeting (-:
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When meeting a new couple we like to plan a meeting in a no pressure situation where there are no expectations of play. This way we can discuss likes, dislikes, limits and get a sense of what the other couple is like and their experience level. Plus it gives the added bonus of being able to have a good conversation of what we thought of them without feeling rushed.
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We usually talk on the phone first, and break the ice and get to know each other and see if there is a connection at all. If that works out, we'll meet for dinner/drinks - with no expectations - and see if there is definitely chemistry between us. If there is, we don't hesitate to move on to fun and games that night if all agree. If there isn't chemistry, we enjoy a nice evening getting to know each other, and go our separate ways afterward, with no hurt feelings at all. We always have the option of another meeting if we all think there might be a possibility of things working out with time, or we can always just chalk it up to experience and move on. I agree with all who have said that "chemistry" is important. If its there, and sparks are definitely flying between us over dinner and drinks, then its been our experience that the sex afterward is HOT and very enjoyable. If the chemistry ISN'T there, then we just decide to "pass" with no hard feeelings.
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We only live once! ;)
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Regardless of what you decide you will go home hot and horny
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We always meet with no expectations of anything but go prepared just in case, one never knows...
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Depends, with the dynamics of couples we like to have a meet first but with singles we have found it works best just to do, or not to do, there is always some exceptions tho ;)
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