Had a couple reach out saying "We are probably interested". Checked them out and they seemed nice so respond in kind. Some time goes by and he gets back and wants to play with my wife but says his is not interested at this time. Didn't specify whether that meant with "me" or the LS in general.I believe it may be a real couple, but it came across as the Mrs doesn't play. Responded that we weren't interested and he should be more honest in his profile. He said I should do the same, even though ours says we're clearly looking for COUPLES and defended that they were "real" swingers and said I had an ego problem and blocked us.What would you think/do in this case?

Had a couple reach out saying "We are probably interested". Checked them out and they seemed nice so respond in kind. Some time goes by and he gets back and wants to play with my wife but says his is not interested at this time. Didn't specify whether that meant with "me" or the LS in general.I believe it may be a real couple, but it came across as the Mrs doesn't play. Responded that we weren't interested and he should be more honest in his profile. He said I should do the same, even though ours says we're clearly looking for COUPLES and defended that they were "real" swingers and said I had an ego problem and blocked us.What would you think/do in this case?

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I would think and do the same I would block him he is obviously looking to play by himself and is not being honest
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Since this person blocked me, and I wound up doing the same, I'm assuming they can't see this. There are 2 sides to every story and I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I did misunderstand when he said his wife was not interested. I thought he meant in the LS in general. Either way our profile is pretty clear that we're in it to find COUPLES to play with though.
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The other thought that comes to mind is that if someone can't speak for their other half, then they shouldn't. Why send an email implying both are interested when it's really only one? At a minimum it's going to come across as a "Bait and Switch" if one half decides after the fact they aren't interested. That is never going to be well received.
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No surprise at all. If we see a profile that is a couple that is the only way we will meet them both or nothing. If they are honest about married but only male plays that is different. Honesty goes a long way.
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In this case I think he read something into our profile that made him believe we would play with just him. We have played with one half of a couple at parties but only when we know the other half is aware of and OK with that, and ONLY at parties The misunderstanding was on both sides. I misunderstood that his Mrs just wasn't interested in me, not the LS in general and he took offense at my comment that they should be honest. Since he blocked me I now have no way of asking why he even thought his offer of playing with my Mrs is something we'd even be interested in. If I knew what made him think that I could change my profile to help prevent a future occurrence.
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I would say that my wife wasn't available as well and that you are the only one able to play. In the same boat as you bud, if you find any takers please let me know. And then never talk to them again.
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Move on
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Don't give it a second thought. There are plenty of others who are more honest and worth your time.
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We did move on and didn't lose any sleep over it, but it was unfortunate. We've found that the LS world is smaller than one might think so dislike making enemies. Definitely not what we're here for.
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Ignore him and move on. I would also block him as he isn't worth being seen or letting him see you.
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They stated they were interested, or at least might be? Might be interested goes without saying since no one has met but after you responded and they knew your couples only preference it would be obvious what his intentions were from that point. Why he would block you is odd, you are a no brainer though. We would have blocked him (them ) in a heart beat and moved on with a snicker.
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It's a common problem that people don't read profiles. Even when they do, some tend to read into it what they want to see. Somehow he read into ours that we'd be interested in playing with just him and he didn't like the way I called him out on it. In hindsight, I should have just responded, "Not interested" and moved on. Live and learn, which is kind of the point of this whole thread. Always nicer when you can learn from the mistakes of others ;-)
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Thanks for the block would be my thoughts. All set with drama an bullshit people!
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There are plenty of people worthy of your time. Obviously he/they are not interested and by his response is not worthy. We have met plenty of people who weed themselves out like that. You’ll find someone just be patient.
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I would have just left it at "we're not interested unless both are playing together". You don't know what their situation is and they don't know yours. It's only through a bit of chatting that you can get a sense of whether or not you ALL want to meet. If people don't know what they want or aren't interested in what we want, then we move on. Is it frustrating? Hell ya! We've found that most people don't really know how to politely decline to play when one party isn't interested and the other is.. If it's not your thing just move on.
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