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What is bi?

Question:

What is bi?

Is it just a physical attraction? Is it more than that, do you have to have an emotional need? Or is it just all about the sexual gratification? Some guys think they will turn gay/bi if their junk comes into contact with another guys during an encounter with a woman, and therefore avoid it. Some guys like to have their ass played with using toys/ fingers, but not another man. Does that make you bi? These are things I've always wondered, can anyone shed some light on this for me?

Answers:

RE: What is bi?
That last post was from John by the way... so no one gets confused. Thanks

RE: What is bi?
i dont get freaked out if my junk touches another guys i am very open minded and whatever happens happens

RE: What is bi?
That's just one of the comments I have heard during chats. It really seems to be a state of mind, but I was just wondering what others thought. I don't think I would freak out either, I mean If you want to DP a woman, you gotta expect some contact, even on accident.

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your correct but some freak out but who cares right lol

RE: What is bi?
In my opinion no action makes anyone anything! But I do feel that a man who would freak during an encounter where he would come in contact with another man while they both were pleasuring another woman, is homophobic or not secure enough within himself.

Being bi, gay, str8 is simply a "tag" others or ones self may place, enjoying certain pleasures is just that, ENJOYING them!

Smooches,
Gin

RE: What is bi?
Well spoken gin, as always you are the opinon guru around here. I think it also may be a matter of being something different to everyone. could it be that some people are bi in certain situations but not others? Such as in the heat of the moment in an encounter, but not so much in their everyday lives?

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i swore that id never do men but i did and luv both now

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I think either you are or your not bi.... it's something either your comfortable with or not. I hate it when in profiles they say "socially bi" because basically that's a statement saying "I'm not comfortable enough to admit I am bi".
Too many people judge a simple 2 lettered word, its sad!

I like girls and I like boys I'm an equal opportunist

Sharon

RE: What is bi?
I consider myself to be selectively bi, not because I'm not comfortable with it though. Some women I enjoy, when the mood is there and most always my arousal stems from giving her pleasure.

I simply enjoy men more and do not want to mislead anyone looking for a bi female. "Selectively bi" opens the door for further conversation on the subject.

Smooches,
Gin

RE: What is bi?
I can understand being selective... but does that make me selectively straight because i'm particular on male partners and sometimes only play with the females?

That's where my thoughts come to play with the notion that either your bi or not.

Sharon

RE: What is bi?
I think bi is a state of mind. An uninhibited view of sexual satisfaction. The ability to keep an open mind and enjoy life as it presents itself to you. I consider myself straight but have had several bi experiences. I enjoy the challenge of satisfying another man and receiving satisfaction as well. Being open to the endless possibilities of bisexual activities is an extremely erotic experience. Those who are unwilling or scared about being with another member of the same sex are missing out on so many things. Be open, be honest, be uninhibited and your sexual life will be endlessly fulfilled.

RE: What is bi?
That's where we are different Sharon, I will always choose a man over a woman, men stimulate me mentally as well as physically, women do not do that for me unless of course I am pleasuring her, then mentally I become aroused.

Being sexually involved with another female is to enhance my experience with a man, to have only a woman doesn't arouse me.

I can't believe in either bi or not because I can take it or leave it but sometimes I enjoy it very much.

What would you classify me?

Smooches,
Gin

RE: What is bi?
I would classify you as bi. If someone had a bi experience and did not like it, I'd say they were straight. But if you are stimulated at any point in time towards the opposite sex and enjoy it... you are bi.
It's like saying I love chocolate cake... then later if your not in the mood for it saying, I don't want it. Are you still a chocolate cake lover? yes... just when you are up for it.

(I know the analogy is somewhat awkward but best I can do today... spent my brain cells in Critical Thinking class today)
Sharon

RE: What is bi?
I know I get turned on watching male strippers and female strippers - so I call myself bi. To me it's a physical attraction. I enjoy big cocks down my throat and one in each hand, big balls slapping me anywhere and nibbling on a muscular tricepts am I straight? I also enjoy licking clits, grabbing a nice pair of titties from behind pressing her back into my titties and feeling her inside with my fingers am I bi?
How could someone try bi and not like it? Either way, does a cock in a chics mouth feel better to her than it would feel to a guy in a his mouth? I think not, I think the same sensation is occuring in both mouths. Fear of the unknown n fear of liking it whoa what a heavy weight. Hurray for razors!!

RE: What is bi?
One may enjoy chocolate cake but I do not feel it makes them a chocolate cake lover just as eating a hamburger at Burger King does not make them a Whopper!!

Wearing Bunker Gear and training as a Firefighter does not make one a Firefighter unless it's practiced regularly, as in a job.

Again, it's just a classification and I will never consider myself to be bi, I'm simply open minded to the possibility of bi activity with another female.

Smooches,
Gin

RE: What is bi?
I enjoy being with a woman with the men watching..I will go down on a girl & enjoy a girl going down on me....it's HOT...but when I want to get finished, I want a MAN to do it...yes, there has to be physical attraction as well as friendship to intertwine with someone.....xoxo Shirley

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i dont find men attractive but i do find cocks attractive and i'd suck the right one does that make me bi?

RE: What is bi?
It's not what other people think, its what you think. Why be pigeon holed into a label? Be who you want to be
Mrs. T

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That's what I say Laura, be honest & tell what you are looking for in your profile, be it whatever...I read your profile, first & then we'll see...woohoo!! xoxo Shirley

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I'm not sure whether I'm bi or just really horny. Fact is my wife gets extremely turned on performing oral on men. I asked why and she wasn't really able to explain it. Only that it felt good in her mouth. Soooo after much discussion we decided that I would try it and see. We met a fantastic "bi" couple and my wife invited me to join her while she gave the husband a blowjob. OMFG!!! It was awesome! We both got so hot. The end result being that yes I do enjoy playing and sucking. I'm not into taking one in the bum...mostly I find something that big is uncomfortable for me. I enjoy watching men and women masturbate equally and also enjoy watching sex whether it be two men, two women or all together. I don't kiss men and not interested in a "relationship" with men. Am I "bi" ? I don't need the tag really. I just know it's fun and that what it's all about.
Thanks

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I agree 100%

Russ

RE: What is bi?
i agree totally with swingcpl57 100%

RE: What is bi?
Good discussion. I do not consider myself bi so much as open minded. I do not fantasize about being with another man solo, but the thought of being with a couple and enjoying being pleased and pleasing both is a huge turn on for me.

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i dont find men to be sexualy attractivebut i do find cocks to be. ive sucked on two before and loved it. maybe im selectively bi?

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Our sentiments..Exactly.

RE: What is bi?
during sex its open game

RE: What is bi?
To me being bi is being open-minded in a situation that everyone gets what they want and gets satisfied. It allows people to explore their curiosity and go further if they choose, if all parties are agreeable. When meeting a couple, being bi doesnt mean the male in the couple has to be bi or participate in anything he isnt interested in doing.

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I dont know what youd call me with my wife i have a fantasy of going down on another man im waaay beyond bi curious im getting hard right now just talking about it i want to be sucked and i want to suck until it cums out my ears

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love to suck that cock Mike

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I must be TRI-, I like it with myself too...lol

RE: What is bi?
Speaking as a bi woman (not bi curious) I enjoy sexual play and kissing another woman, even friends with benefits. I also have a hall pass to play alone with a woman. However I an not interested in a "relationship" like I have with my husband or like I have had with men in general.

As for incidental male/male contact that does not make you bi or bi curious. I had a very erotic encounter where I sucked on my husband's penis and another guys at the same time. Very hot!!!

RE: What is bi?
Bi is a meaningless label. Labels come with expectations. "You are not what you do." What are you when you arn't doing it, Nothing?

Normal is different, Different is normal.

If everyone was a conformist we would all still be living in caves.

I crossdress to express my sensuality and my femininity. I was in the Marine Corps, I connected Steel doing Ironwork for 20 years.

You are not what you do.

RE: What is bi?
hhhhhmmmmmm well i can honestly say that iam bi and almost everyone who knows me from this site and the places we hang out know this, its no big deal to them and sometimes makes for realy good convesations lol with my job i do get hit on by more women then men expecialy since they all know that iam a happy,secure, married bifemale. being what you are is what you choose to be or do and should not matter what any else thinks your goal in life should be to make yourself and family happy and not worry or care what others think its your life to live you should live it for YOU not for others. now i do keep that iam bi from kids but when they get i will probably them when i think they are old enough to understand..

RE: What is bi?
I`m very much into just all the pleasure of pleasuring anyone.its a good feeling to make a man cum and watch him shoot a load.

RE: What is bi?
me too

RE: What is bi?
if you have sex with the same sex and like it then bi all means try it again.i did and i like it.i think i'm bi but i don't like the label.male here

RE: What is bi?
Another good read, I long for a time where we can all be free to enjoy and explore our sexuality without fear of reprisal and social stigma/acceptance. To date I have not had a sexual experience with a women however I think women are beautiful and sexy and have imagined myself kissing and fondling. I fantisize about a women going down on me but not always the other way around. What would society say that makes me? Hmmm not sure.

RE: What is bi?
I'm horny. That about sums it up... bi, bu-curious, straight, I don't really care. If the moment is here and the sex is hot, lemme have at it!

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