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Meet Greet Fuck and Go
Does anyone not just meet, greet, fuck and go anymore?? Why does everybody want to be "friends" first? Don't need to bring friendship into it? Please respond if you agree. |
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I disagree, I didn't fuck strangers when I was single and have no interest in doing it now |
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what if you agree and disagree? LOL they are fun but also its good to have some you are friends with as well |
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We enjoy friendships. Friends with benefits are even better. We actually prefer local swing friends rather than out-of-towners.
We prefer house parties over clubs, as we can meet people more easily.
Does that make us odd? |
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We agree. There does have to be an easy, comfortable, non-uptight feeling, but the Getting to be friends" first, NO. If you're a swinger for real, you're in it for the sex. If you must be friends before you fuck, go join a "friendship" site, I'm sure there are some. If you want SEX, and are a REAL swinger, then you can have "SEX WITH INDIFFERENCE", and not be "friends first", and please don't tell me you go to swingers club and waste peoples time looking for "friends first"!!!! Stay home, find frinends first in the site and let the rest if us meet real swingers and have fun, OK? |
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These comments bring to mind the familiar situation where a guy is young and his teen GF doesn't want to give it up unless she (and you) are in love. Because to do otherwise (in her mind anyway) would mean that (to put it nicely) she was not a good person. So what do the guys do? They tell her they love her. It seems to me that just like that teen virgin in my analogy, some people are kidding themselves. While it doesn't take long to decide if you like someone and are comfortable with them, tell me, how long does it take to truly become friends with someone? You know a real friend. And how many times do you meet and hang-out before you hit the sack? Consider that and more....I know from experience that I have never-ever met the single or the couple that did not want to fuck on the first meeting. And yes, before I get flamed, I am sure that has and is not everyone's Else's experience. I am speaking from my experience. I am there to fuck; and if I like you, and I feel comfortable, I will fuck you. No need for pretense. |
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I agree if ur a swinger it should be hey lets fuck not lets get drinks then dinner if we like you then we can fuck nah bullshit.Friendship yea rite who can you trust these days as a friend! |
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MAY I SAY A HAPPY MEDIUM WOULD BE NICE SUPRISED THIS DIDNT OPEN A WHOLE CAN OF WORMS HAVE A GREAT DAY
ROB |
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When I was a single swinger I always made sure that I knew the people I was surrounded by, otherwise going into a scene of strangers it could lead to bad experiences. You don't have to be "best friends" but you do need to be able to trust the other person enough to know they are decent people. Going into a "fuck and go" type of situation, you NEVER know what you will be leaving with, you may end up with different friends like communicable diseases etc.
That is why Swinger Parties are best to attend and safe for the most part because the people who throw them have a reputation to keep up :)
Sharon |
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Just cuz u meet someone and "get to know them" doesn't give you any more insight as to what "diseases" or whatever, that they may have. You are always taking a chance, no matter if you get to know the person or not. Anyone can say they are dd free, and you will never know if it's true or not. Since it's all about sex, friendship has no place in it, in our opinion. |
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I think if you meet for drinks or dinner you can usually tell if you want to fuck on first meeting or if you want to wait. If we hit it off and all are agreeable we have no problem fucking on first meeting but we have met some that we wouldn't! |
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When it comes to fucking, anyone can hit it off. Depending on your frame of mind. If you are looking for drinks and dinner, then that's great, HOWEVER, if you're just looking to fuck, no BS is required. Just do it. Save time ~~ just do it. No name required. :blowjob: |
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yes thats so true most want to meet a few times first what the hell if you meet for drinks everyone is all on the same page let the fun start not maybe next time we have to be frinds first bs |
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This is an interesting topic, we have been around the room on and off for a long time and have only recently met a couple near enough to us and that we have become comfortable with through conversation to have a first meeting with them soon. I being the Mr am perfectly happy with jumping into it on the first meeting but respecting the wishes of the Mrs (of both parties I belive the first meeting is going to be just that) When we found this site we stuck with it because the people for the most part seemed genuine, understanding and helpfull. Are we not "real swingers" because we think that some of the human emotional aspect of sex is important. If we just wanted a hole or a pole to grind well I think they sell dolls for that.. For us at least we will stick to comfort levels. But I suppose with any group mainstream or other wise ther can be certain levels of snobery. Sorry to not live up to some of your expectations of what a "true swinger" should be.... |
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Wasn't trying to say anything is wrong with the lifestyle, nor of having friends. We were just wondering if there were any other people out there like us who just care to MEET, GREET, FUCK AND GO!. |
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We agree with cute lil gurl 100%
Very well said--------- |
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We agree..some couple, people, you just have an attraction that requires you be friends(lol), but then there are those that you get along with and just wanna get freaky with but have nothing in common....we hear..thats cool too for those that want that. |
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I see no problem here either way. I have friends here that I value and once we meet feel sure that something will happen quickly. After being here for awhile you get comfortable with people here. Now for the fuck, suck, and go. I have no problem with that either. If I can go to a house party or club and do it with strangers with just a moments notice based on attraction I can do it just about anywhere. I feel it is up to the comfort level of the people involved. |
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I'm good either way. I've met folks in on-premise clubs and at parties and we've fucked and never seen each other again. Never had an ongoing thing with a couple but I've had female FWB and it was good. Depends on the people and the circumstances. |
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I must agree with most here. What nonsense of "no chemistry"? WTF? Come on this about recreational sex/fucking. I have a relationship with my wife. I love my wife and don't want to leave her, she just enjoys some nice fucks and I enjoy watching photographing it for her. Nothing more. |
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Makes sense too..we can enjo that as well if in them situations i guess. Hasnt happened for us...yet, going to a club. We havnt been able to find a club or meet people that go to them clubs yet. |
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You're dayum right hun...things will happen fast...
:dance: :sing: :naughty: |
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love to join you |
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I think we all agree that we all have those urges to just let that . . . i wanna say vibe, let loose. And if you find someone who has the same interests and need. It would be alright to suck fuck and go. But if your just meeting up to hang out with the thought of maybe hooking up and that "vibe" per-say occurs, then why would you not? Unless your beliefs are otherwise. Ya diig? It's all on the feeling and urges you get. =] |
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The nice thing about this lifestyle is there is something for everyone. If you are looking to meet, fuck, and go, there are plenty of couples that are into that. There are also plenty of couples that would like to be friends with benefits. It's all good. |
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let meet |
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i dont need to be friend for sex, for me its the hottest thing about sex to do it with a stranger and older man! |
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Couldn't agree more. Seems simple to us, but it seems they all want this on so many levels it isn't really fun anymore. |
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WOW, what a thread, not sure how I missed it all this time!
NOTHING in life is all about sex to us and being swingers is no different. Any way it's sliced, we are humans not animals. Just as we have needs and desires we also have feelings and the need for communication.
Yes swinging is recreational sex not making love but if I want to simply get off I will pull my lil toy box out and choose from an array of colors and sizes to take care of my needs. But I refuse to treat other humans/swingers as objects to satisfy my sexual appetite.
Best friends? It has happened but not a requirement before swinging but a cordial friendship is required before sex happens. If I wouldn't invite you into my home or out for dinner at a favorite restaurant, I certainly would not invite you into my panties!!!
Smooches,
Gin |
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I have known many people who I find sexy because I know them as friends/ acquaintances. Most of us are not drop dead gorgeous, but there are personality traits- they way we laugh, smile, or tell a joke, that are sexy. Getting to know someone before the play is necessary to find those sexy quirks. |
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Well I guess I am old fashioned I would like to get to know someone a little before I commence with a very personal act...This is giving and sharing sexual gratification not a spit chew and screw thing unless of course you have no respect for yourself... |
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Ouch no respect for ourselves? That's cold coming from someone who doesn't even know us,hypocrite.We posted this thread because we wanted to see if others shared our views or fantasies not hear from old men who want to make it sound degrading or disrespectful to anyone.As for the rest of the post at-least they showed class and respect with their responses even if they disagreed.I guess my question to ncdoughhead would have to be who put you in charge of what the (swinger) lifestyle is?The world is made up of many different types of people and just maybe YOU should learn to RESPECT that. |
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I oouldn't have said it better myself ohmystomach, well said! Personally, I share your originally stated interests and agree with that post. |
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thank you,wasn't trying sound ugly but SOME people just strike a nerve with that holier than thou attitude they spew.Makes you wonder?Doesn't it hurt your ass to be riding that fence?I think they should smoke a peace pipe and get over themselves |
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anyone up for a meet greet fuck and go this coming weekend?(except you dough head)looking to get a room in Charlotte area and play for few hours,,,,respectful peeps only. |
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First we never said LIFE was all about sex,nor do we feel anyone is getting used,everyone has right to their our opinion but to say its using or treating anyone as just an object for our own sexual gratification is way off base.We treat everyone in every situation in life with kindness and respect regardless of whether we are just meeting a stranger or our closest friends all get the same respect we ourselves think we deserve.Like we said the thread was intended to see if their was likeminded peeps out there,not be judged or scorned.We except you for you,shouldn't you afford us the same?peace out |
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I don't think ncdoughboy was personally attacking anyone, he made an open statement just as we all have here. This is a good thread please lets not ruin it by name calling or by openly excluding anyone to degrade them. If this continues I will bring the thread down!......Gin |
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I simply stated our perception and how we view things, I did not say those who thought differently were wrong in their thinking more that their thinking is wrong for us! I understand exactly what you have been saying and your choice of swinging is different from ours, that is how the ball bounces.....Gin |
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thank you |
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I have been on this site for some time and I think it does lean towards friendship first kind of swinging.While I have no problem with the wham bam thank you Mam kind of swinging. (I have had many of these encounters in my life). It may be harder to meet these type of swingers here than on other sites such as Craigs List or On Line Booty Call. Good luck in your search and I hope you find people that are here for the same interests as you seek. |
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Im really for a meeting first over a drink talk see where it goes. Make a plan to make everyone happy and let it go from there slowly or at supersoinic speed. Every situation is differnt. I am anxious for replies in Phoenix Az Thx Bob |
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Great question, the postings here seem to be a mix of both "fuck and go" and "friends w/benefits". Everyone will have their own comfort level, boundaries and each situation will be different. We think friends with benefits suits us more but, who knows we could meet the right couple.
cpl4more6300 |
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Seems the older we get the harder it is to find quality couples to couple with |
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We have lots of friends, but not enough people to just fuck and enjoy for the sake of sex!! Anyone wanna fuck and just enjoy fucking?? Send a note our way and lets get together, soon. |
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It seems that those who have been in the lifestyle longer or have more experience MAY be more comfortable with a being able to make a good assessment from an initial meeting. I think for those of use with less experience, the friends first method is a way to try to develop some idea if that sex would be a positive experience or a negative one. |
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This has sure been an interesting read. This site has a community/friendship feeling about it which was what appealed to us. There are other sites which are more blunt and seem to lean towards the meet, greet and fuck. For us the experience we seek includes the mind not just the body, the flirt, the inuendo, the lead up. We choose to meet and hope for that spark and to learn the quirts we all have that make us attractive as individuals. I think on premis clubs are a great place for meet, greet and fuck and there is definately room for both. We are in the lifestyle to experience situations we can not do together as a couple and some require a basic comfort and trust level with those involved and some require a perfect stranger never to be seen again...LOL We also enjoy friendship without the sex with couples where there is no spark, a circle of friends where we can discuss different subjects not brought up in our vanilla circles so to speak. |
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If insulted you by sounding holier than you that was not my intention..You have to live your life by your rules and others by theirs I see it is not a good idea to freely associate on this type of blog...To this end i apologize and offer a friendly hello..I was only talking in general not about you or your wants needs or sexual free ness.. |
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What a great post, and lots of great responses as well. We can see both sides of the argument, so here's our 2cents: We are a 100% devoted couple and we are into the lifestyle for the recreational sex. A real friendship takes time to develop, so to say we'll meet first and have drinks etc. before (in our opinion) is a little disingenous, how many meetings will it take befoe we become friends? Quite frankly we don't have that much time. We have friends, some swing some don't. Although we always make a first meeting a requirement before sex. For us it's a gut check, we're looking for people we wouldn't mind having as friends. There has to be some type of attraction. We can't explain it, but there are some couples we met, they were nice people, but the chemistry wasn't right, others from the first hello we couldn't wait to get them in the sack. We have had some friendships develop, others we've never seen again.
Ric & Teri |
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We agree with Ric & Teri...we've been on this site for a while and true we did find some people and couples that are cool as ever ..we also had to be realistic about the situation. We are on an adult site not for friendship, but for sexual pleasure, some for experience and other's for advise...but we are on here because we are all adults and want to enjoy playing with other adults...that's it...friendships develop through time and can be very fun and very convenient, but for those that have a demanding life outside the lifestyle that could also be too demanding or not convenient enough to proceed further...and the reality of the situation is that no matter the pinions of everyone on here...eventually it all breaks down to everyone fucking something or someone...Plus you may not want to be friends with someone outside of the lifestyle depending on your personal and professional life...that's why a lot of people have there preferences on their site...friends or not we are all seeking to get fucked some how...if friendship is in the cards we'll get there...
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We are not seeking sex, we are here and have been in the lifestyle for a long time seeking to surround ourselves with others who are open minded to the concept of swinging and we have been very successful.
If others are too busy in their personal lives (how can one be too busy to stay in contact) or if their interest in us is for sex only, that simply isn't for us.
Not only is it more safe to know more about those you choose to swing with, the pleasure is better as you communicate and learn more about what everyone desires.
This is what we choose and how others choose to swing is just that, their choice and not to be judged right or wrong.
Smooches,
Gin
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i also like to be freinds i was sitting at home alone the other night horrny as hell went on craigs list answered an ad for a bi male im not gay or bi but i thaught what the hell BLOW AND GO no talk he drained my balls and left best blow job ive ever had |
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For us it depends on the situation but if you are coming our way you better bring your "A" game and be prepared to go with the flow. Sometimes we meet, greet, fuck, and go and sometimes we talk, have a drink, and move in slowly. It is all a matter of everyone's comfort level in the situation. Because if you aren't comfortable you aren't horny! |
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Honestly, when I was single (fem half here) I would really hav to be mentally attracted to someone before gettin into bed with them and I am still that way now. |
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fem half here, I would have to say i agree but disagree. For some its a physical thing and all I want is to fuck and go our separate ways. Then there are times I want to get to know something about my play mate. |
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No kidding Just want to hkp and get laid fullfill fantasy and suck some cock |
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How many of us have been to a club and found yourself in the middle of an orgy and only knowing 1 or 2 ppl from the group. That is not even a meet greet and fuck situation, it is just fucking. |
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