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LADIES DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?

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LADIES DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?

Was the saying "it aint the size of the ship, but the motion of the ocean" made up by a woman to console her lover?

How big is too big? How long is too long?

webMD says the average length is 6" - 8". I fall midway then. I haven't left a lover dissatisfied and have been told by several that I have a large penis.

looking at adult films though makes me feel a little on the small side.

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RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I HEAR YA IVE BEEN TOLD I WAS HUGE BUT IM JUST UNDER EIGHT AND YOU SEE SOME OF THOSE GUYS ON THE PORNOS AND I FEEL LIKE A TEN YEAR OLD
ROB

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
For the life of me I will never understand this fixation about size.I don't care how much cock you got (or don't),if you don't know how to use it,it is useless as far as I'm concerned.
NO,I'm not saying that cuz I got a small cock(for those who don't know me yet),I would say I'm bout average...but you can bet your life I know how to use it as well,just ask anyone who does know me.

Have a great day,and an even better evening,
Russ

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
100% Agree with you Russ.. I've always said, it's not the size of a tool, its the way you use it. If a small pinky size vibrator can do the trick so can a below average cock. Also a lot of well endowed men think that because they are big and can bottom up a woman he's doing a great job...not!
So, all in all it's all about the person not the size.

Sharon

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I can't speak for all women, but I think it's a combination of many things including: length, thickness, skill, creativity, and experience that make a man a good lover. For me, YES, size does matter--however, I'd much rather a have skilled lover with average endowment than a very well hung lover who thinks he's a superstar in bed just because he's big. In general, I prefer thickness over length, but either way you have to know what to do with it. I've had lovers who were smaller than average, yet left me completely satisfied every time because they were skilled in other sexual ways, such as oral or foreplay. Likewise, I've had lovers who were bigger than average and thought they just because they were big, they didn't have to put in much effort...so I had to teach them what I liked and it just took time to figure out what worked for us.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
tastes vary, and size certainly isn't everything, but I can tell you from personal experience that size matters quite a lot to quite a lot of people

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
size matters more to the man as if a big one makes them feel better about themselves but if they have confidence an avg size and the ability to use will work just fine

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I personally prefer average (6-9in.)
But cock size is not a prerequisite for meeting us or for having sex.
I like a man who has kindness in his heart, a brain in his head and respect for his fellow human beings.
I don't care how pretty and impressive the equiptment is,
As a matter of fact, Too big is more of an issue with me, than too small.
Anything over 9 hurts and is not pleasurable for me.
I am not a porn star and have no desire to have my parts stretched to baseball capacity.
That being said,
I have to be honest...
Size does matter,
But not the size of the dick,
The size of the ego,
is what I'm talkin about.
If you have a big ten in. and think you're God's gift.
Don't call me,
I have enough gifts thanks.
Have a great day,
Huggs,
Karen

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
My hubby is eight inches long and very thick and I LOVE his cock but I've had a male recently that was about seven and very skinny and that hurt! It wasn't fun at all and he just kept pounding my bottom out until I made him stop... so it's not length but thickness for me!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I'm an average 6" but have some nice thickneess. Kat has always told me I am enough. We met a couple where the guy was 8" and Kat thought she couldn't handle all of that. Long story short, he was up to his balls and she loved it. We both agree that size doesn't matter but it's what we do with what we have.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
i think size does matter but so does know how to use it. i have had various sizes and i would have to say that its just right at about 8 in and 2 in thick. but if u want fun in both holes the smaller ones work a little better

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
my boyfriend is 7.5 and a nice thickness and he knows how to use it i met this guy who was about 5 and very thin and i didnt feel that at all but he satisfied me orally and with foreplay u have to know how to use it

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
A guy and a gal were about to have sex for the first time, when he dropped his drawers, she saw he was sporting a small penis, her reply was "just who in hell do you think you are going to satisfy with that little thing?" the guy replied with a smile on his face "me."

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
hehe

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
No size doesnt matter, if a man knows how to satisfy a woman, that is. If you are a bad date then it does not matter how big u are. So i say men learn what that thing is for!!!!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I am noticing a lot of comments like no size doesn't matter as long as...
The truth of that statement is YES in penetrative sex size DOES matter, but as long as oral or some other activity is good you can deal with the trade off.
I know thats more of an observation, and I am not complaining, but just want to say to those people being honest with a man who cannot fully satisfy with penetrative sex is certainly far from easy, but you will get more benefit in the long run from saying so.

Now I am not small by average standards, I am between 7-8 inches depending on how horny I am and I have satisfied size queens loving 10 or more inches I can also bottom out a girl at times.

I am in my mind and others a good fuck, and I have heard such things randomly with my friends being friends with certain girls and spreading the word which is all cool. But if I am with a size queen or anal lover I definately want to know it, I like stretching my own ass to the limits. I often sit for hours taking my 24" dildo thats thicker than me, a fist to the elbow and if I met a girl who tells me the same then I wanna share that intensity with her all the more as it is a fetish of my own.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Size, as with most things in this lifestyle is a personal preference.
And I think that honesty and frank communication with potential playmates makes all the difference.
I don't believe that any lover leaves you satisfied by instinct or endowment alone.
If you don't share your desires and discuss what excites you, you leave that partner at a disadvantage, not knowing where to start.
No matter the tool, If you don't know which shed to put it in, It gets left out in the rain.
Have a great day.
Huggs,
Karen

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
i personal believe size does matter to women , but i have been told a lot that my pennis is not only long by wide , when i'm on the dance floor , i always had at least one woman ask me if i'm a better dancer or lover , and my answer is always , there's only one way to find out , and know i'm a better lover , i also believe if you don't put 100% of you passion into love making , most women won't come back for seconds. from 69cowboy4u the group owner of mustang's and phillie's

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Let me put all at ease, its about sensitivity, some folks are more sensitive than others, if a woman is very sensitive and does not have sex that often, she will be easy to satisfy from any size man, but depending on the size of her and the man, results will vary as far as the pain pleasure mix goes and most women know exactly what they like and what works and what doesn't, the mystery remains with the man who usually is the one to ask the question does size matter. If a woman is filled to capacity and she feels all pleasure and no pain u better not stop until she is done I think that matters most, right ladies?

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I think it's all relative the the each girl individually. Some women love them big, but I'm not one of them. I like my men average. There's just some things you can't do with huge cocks because of the angles or if your not deep enough.For me w/ a guy that is huge, the first round of sex is great, but then as soon as it's over I feel pretty sore and don't really want to go another round because it hurts if you know what I mean. I dont know if its just because I'm tight or if other women just like that feeling but I dont. I feel like I can do more and different positions and more rounds are possible when a guy is a little less huge, like I prefer 6-7 inches. I'm also not a big fan of it banging on the back inside of me. But its does take some know how in how to use it to do it right if your ANY size, big or small. So don't get it twisted.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
when you have size and skills like my oleman you dont even have to ask the question dose size matter and when theres no ego to fight ohhhh yall im in heaven every night well almost every night he dose have a job to go to!!!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I dont think size matters if a guy knows how to use it then why should size matters.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
:eek: Why are you just asking the ladies? Lots of guys like cock too! :eeek: :lol:

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Size does not matter to me. I won't embarrass Ted too much here but he is on the smaller size but thick. I love it. It fits everywhere comfortably and I wouldn't have it any other way. I have had larger men and it's very uncomfortable for me. Mostly because they thought they were gods gift to women and didn't have to do anything more than stick it in me as hard as they could. I did not enjoy that. If you know how to use it and how to please your woman it does not matter the size.

Hugs and Kisses
Jen

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I dont know where people are getting averages of 9inches. Every where ive seen averages from different health sites, its 5-7 inches. I personally am about 7 and a half but reasonably thick. Never had a problem with anyone thinking it too small, however I still wish i were a little bigger. From what ive heard its just personal taste, however even if your're huge, if you dont know how to use it it doesnt matter.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I personally like something I can fit in my mouth. I love to give oral sex to men, and the too large cock is just that....too large. I want to suck someone down to the shaft, and if he's too big, I have to use my hand to hold the bottom. I like to suck right to the bottom, AND like to get fucked right to the top. So what size is that?? The average size of a woman's cunt is 7 in.'s believe it or not. I like thickness too, both for fucking and suxking, but seven inches is long enough thanks. I have wonderful partners with wonderful cocks,who love to service me properly with their generous members, and tongues. can't stress enough the value of a good tongue. Man's or woman's. It amazes me that men still think that porn is the answer to sex. It makes a mockery of men and women. Personally, I love to suck a soft cock, and bring it back to life.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
i think 90% of the women loves to have a huge cock even they realize later that a regular size gets harder and thicker if is use regulary and those men tent to learn how to enjoy sex with other tricks than the putting it in and out...;-)

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I believe that skill is the number one factor, bottom line is that if he doesn't know how to use it the size doesn't matter either way!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
The national average erect penis is between 5 and 7 inches. Only 2,8% of the male USA population has over 7.5 inches, when erect. Playboy has given many of us a complex, however, it is a moot premise since most women have no nerve endings deeper than 4 inches into their vagina.Therefore, it is a psychogenic reaction.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
let me end this ridiculous thread.woman??would you want a 1 inch that knows how to use it??or a 8+ thick one who knows how to use it?argument over. lol

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
size matters to us. my husband is 6 inches and i love em 9 plus

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I have had the best sex of my life with a guy who was only at best 5 inches and I've had men that are way more who just kept stabbing my insides. Its all about how you use it and how well you know a womans body.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
My cock is 6" with some girth to it and my wife tells me that it is plenty big... right before she asks me to fist her. LOL

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
well some have said before the size of the ego matters more than the size of the penis. Sex is all mental a woman has to feel wanted and cared for during sex but will also depends on the woman. I don't talk about my cock much but the partners have had thought it was thick and lengthy. Well its really not that long - it's 2 1/4 inch thick 8 inch long and for a black guy that's normal.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Amen g/f! I have always stated "it's not the size of the tool, it's the way you use it" Finally, someone who can confirm my philosophy!!!

Sharon

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Of course size matters. People say that it's more about the skills, but that's beside the point. You won't find a woman alive complaining about someone with size AND skills.

Half a loaf is better than none, sure, but the whole loaf is twice as good.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I have always been a big believer that its a combination of length, width, skill, and ability to read & react to who your with. Also, I have never felt that I had to go all the way in for it to be fun. Some of my most sensual memories involve nothing but the head of my dick casually moving in & out for a while just to tease while the foreplay continued! :D

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Well I don't want to feel like I'm giving birth while I fuck so I like men on the smaller size but thickness does matter! I had a guy that was about 7 inches and I was in so much pain cuz he kept hitting my cervix!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
it's been my experience that the big guys don't get completely hard, i prefer a hard cock, be it big or small

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Throb throb strain strain throb throb!! :P

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I have a very tight pussy that has had several cocks over the years and I must say that I do love average size cocks just as well as big cocks! My husband of 18 years has 6 3/4 inches which I love and it gives me great orgasms every time!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
don't know yet. have never found one that was too big for me, but im still looking!!!!!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I don't like a long cock, hurts me having him bang away on my cervix.

I do love girth though in various sizes. I prefer smaller for backdoor fun.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
is this a good thing or a bad thing....blush

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
i've been called small.. ive been called huge.. simply depends on the lady...

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
She loves thick to VERY thick but length around 8 or so is fine

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
its not how big u r its how u use it

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
I luv my husband's cock. When he deep thrusts, it rubs or bumps into my cervix a little bit. It really rocks my world. Too big hurt. More fun to play and look at a big one than to fuck it.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
too big is when u can't suck or they send u 2 the hospital from breaking the pussy.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
oh well - I think most women prefer thickness instead of length. Whereas being too lengthy can hurt a woman too thick doesn't. And the advantage is the vagina is elastic so it doesn't matter how thick a guy is with enough lubrication his going in. Personally i think the thickness contributes more to a woman having orgasm than the length.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
When did averaged change to 6 to 8? Web MD is not the best source for cock size lol. Actually average is 5.5 to 6.5 (55% of males studided) measured from the tip of the erect penis to the abdomen, not the asshole guys! Average girth is 4 to 5.5 inches. 6 to 8 is way off the studies done by many medical studies, including Duke Medical which is where this study came from. These studies are of 1000 males from age 19 to 30. 6 to 6.5 is next then 6.5 to 7.5 is third. Many other studies done show the same or close to the same result. As a side note if anyone wants to see where I fall in I can come and show you lol!

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
Don't sweat it. You've got a hand, don't ya? An arm? A leg? (Better use chest waders if you find one that big.)

Seriously, you can do with your fingers, lips and tongue than most women need. If that's not enough, there are innumerable tools for sale. And, I was serious about your hand as well. An arm is not unheard of either - there was this woman once.

Actually, there was. She went to high school with my cousin. I saw her once when she was 17 and not again until ten years and 2 marriages later, for her. She told me that she used her bf's "cop light" flashlight . . . anally. I could never get over the idea of the squared-off bluntness of the ends of those things.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
as a reasonably sized bi male i can say i like thick and short better than long for recieving anal. Too long, 9", just hurts too much when he is balls in, but the pain of getting a thick one in there is exquisite and soon passes to be the most fantastic pleasure.

RE: LADIES,....DOES SIZE REALLY MATTER? HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?
It can be too big or too small but no matter what if they use it the right way that is what counts!

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