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We are a straight male w/ bicurious female, married happily for 6 years. We want to get into Swing with another woman or another couple with a bifemale. We have had a few couples respond on st and another swing site. One is somewhat promising as to what we are seeking but the other one was too bold and not respectful at all of our wishes. How do properly tell someone No and still be kind? Also, what are the best ways to proceed with the couple that we are interested in? We have wanted to visit Trapeze in Atlanta and hopefully will. Are there any suggestions or comments about the club? We have never been to Trapeze so what can we expect? Chatrooms are not really our deal, for one because the conversations tend to cease when someone hotter than us enters, and two because we are not really into cybersex. Any suggestions on this one would be helpful. Thanks for your time. :) |
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RE: Getting started
First off welcome to ST! Swinging is an amazing and exciting lifestyle that can be confusing when your starting out so don't worry you WILL get into the swing of things.
The way I handle not being interested in a couple or single person is just say... sorry I'm/We're not interested at this point. A TRUE swinger will understand the dynamics between people sometimes just don't work out the way we want. As for the other couple show some interest and maybe set a date up with them, meet at a restaurant and just feel things out with them with no pressure.
ST chatroom is very different than most, if you haven't tried it I would say give it a whirl...you many like it! There are some amazing people whom I've gotten to know in chat and then met offline. You do have the choice to cam or watch cams, the decision is up to you. You can also broadcast your cam and select who watches; be it only couples or what not. I ALWAYS use the option of asking permission to see my cam, and I've been in chat a few years now.
Sorry I have not visited or know of Trapeze just heard of it briefly as a place to try.
I wish you the best of luck in your swinging adventures, and don't be afraid to post or email any questions you may have!
Sharon |
RE: Getting started
Thank you you have been very helpful. |
RE: Getting started
We agree with Sharon set up a public meet and make sure the other couple understands there are no expectations at that meet ( what happens Happens ). As to the other couple just tell them "Sorry I don't think we are compatible and good luck."
About the club we would say do they have a group or a web page where you can contact others that have been there to ask questions.
Dave and Mary |
RE: Getting started
we want to enroll in the swinger live any good advised |
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