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Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
How has it helped or hurt your marriage? |
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RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
It has helped us be more vocal and creative with our intimate desires and fantasies. |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Thats a pretty vague question.As polaris said,it helped them become more vocal and creative...but if your marriage is on the rocks,the only way I see it helping is to end things that much sooner and hurt "ALL" involved at the same time,not just you and your spouse.
As for me and my wife,I'd say it hasn't helped or hurt...it just inhances the love we already have between us,and at the same time,it allows us to make some really great friends along the way.Some with benefits,and some without.
Thanks for the question,
Russ |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
plz helppppppppppppppppp |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
can you clarify what you need help with,and from whom?
Russ |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
LETS GO BACK TO 1976. MY WIFE PAT AND I HAD BEEN MARRIED SINCE 1967 AND WERE CONTINUALLY HAVING PROBLEMS AFTER THE FIRST YEAR, NOT PHYSICALLY FIGHTING TO THE POINT OF HITTING EACH OTHER BUT NOT A KIND WORD WHEN I GOT HOME FROME WORK. IT WAS A GREAT DAY WHEN THERE WAS NOT A CUSS FIGHT AND I DIDN'T STORM OUT OF THE HOUSE TO COOL DOWN BEFORE GOING TO BED. THIS WENT ON FOR ABOUT A YEAR TO 15 MONTHS AND PAT HAD RETAINED A LAWYER FOR DIVORCE AND I HAD TALKED TO A LAWYER WHERE I WORKED ABOUT REPRESENTING ME IN A DIVORCE. IN THE MEANTIME I HAD GOTTEN INTRODUCED TO THE DIRECTOR OF THE SWING CLUB THAT HAD SOCIALS NEAR WHERE WE LIVED EVERY 2 MONTHS SO I GOT MYSELF INVITED TO THE AFTERNOON GET ACQUAINTED SESSION THAT HAD STRAIGHT PEOPLE AND SWINGERS PRESENT. TO GO TO THE PARTY IT WAS COUPLES ONLY SO I DID NOT GET TO GO AS I DID NOT HAVE A PARTNER. I HAD BEEN ABOUT 4 OR 5 TIMES AND SO WHEN A PERSON CALLED MY HOUSE ON A MONDAY WANTING TO FUCK MY WIFE PAT AS I HAD BEEN TO THE AFTERNOON GET ACQUAINTED SESSION ON SATURDAY. WHEN I GOT HOME FROM WORK, THE CUSSING REALLY STARTED AS I WAS SUPPOSED TO HAVE BEEN OUT OF TOWN ON WORK ASSIGNMENT AND DIVORCE STATEMENTS FOR THE NEXT TWO WEEKS THEN ON AFTERNOON PAT SAID WELL YOU HAVE ALWAYS KEPT THE AREA AROUND YOUR DICK AND BALLS SHAVED AND WANTED ME TO SHAVE MY PUSSY AND I HAVE ALWAYS REFUSED SO I HAVE SHAVED MY PUSSY BARE TODAY AND THE NEXT SOCIAL WE WILL GO TOGETHER AND TRY THE SWINGING SCENE AND YOU CAN WATCH ME FUCK SOME OTHER MEN. I CONTACTED THE LOCAL DIRECTOR WHO WAS UNEASY ABOUT THE SITUATION AND REQUESTED THAT WE ATTEND OUR FIRST SOCIAL IN NASHVILLE TENNESSEE TO SEE IF PAT WAS WANTING TO GET DIVORCE MATERIAL. A WEEK AND A HALF LATER WE WENT TO NASHVILLE AND PAT HAD HER FIRST SWINGING EXPERIENCE FUCKING 3 DIFERENT GUYS THE FIRST NIGHT AND LOVED IT AND WE WERE VERY ACTIVE SWINGERS FOR THE NEXT 7 PLUS YEARS. PAT DROPPED HER DIVORCE LAWYER TWO WEEKS AFTER WE RETURNED FROM NASHVILLE, OUR FUSSING, QUARRELING, AND PROBLEMS TOTALLY DISSAPPEARED AND PAT ENJOYED IT SO MUCH THAT SHE EVEN MET CLUB MEMBER DURING THE DAY WITH MY BLESSING AND ENCOURAGEMENT WHILE I WAS AT WORK AND WE WOULD TALK ABOUT HER FUN TIMES AFTER I GOT HOME FROM WORK. PAT AND I TALKED AND LAUGHED NUMEROUS TIMES ABOUT WE WERE SCHEDULING A COURT APPEARANCE PROBABLY IN MID 1978 FOR A MESSY DIVORCE WHEN WE STARTED SWINGING IN EARLY 1978 AND IT SAVED OUR MARRIAGE AND WE HAD THE BEST YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE "BAR NONE" DURING OUR SWINGING YEARS EARLY 1978 THRU LATE 1984. PAT WANTED TO DROP OUT AND RAISE OUR FAMILY IN 1985. SO DID SWINGING HELP OR HURT OUR MARRIAGE? IT NOT ONLY SAVED OUR MARRIAGE BUT MADE IT STONGER AND BETTER AND WE HAD 41 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, THE LAST 30 YEARS WERE HAPPY ONES UNLIKE THE FIRST 11 YEARS, WHEN PAT PASSED AWAY IN 2008. |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
All depends on why you are getting into swinging. :)
It can help if you are a secure couple and looking to put a little excitement in your lives.
But if you are having intimacy issues and looking for some sexual gratification....then I would recommend trying alternative methods before swinging. Intimacy issues can basically be narrowed down to two different reasons; physical or emotional. A physical issue is cure with medical treatment, and an emotional issue needs to be addressed in another fashion BEFORE swinging as it will open up other avenues of emotions that sometimes can not be redirected and do more harm than good.
Sharon |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
MMM, Swinging like milk does a body good. |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
lmao
Of course it does a body good, but what about the rest of your persona... mind and soul?
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RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Me and My Ex started out in the lifestyle to expolre another side that we shared the same intrest, and yes it did help our relationship not only that it helped learn to have more trust for each other and even now that we aren't together we still get together every here and there and enjoy outings with outher couples... My best suggestion is to make sure you two already have a strong relationship and neither one of you pressure each other into the lifestyle and your best bet would to attend a meet and greet and just start from there |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
I pretty much agree with everything said.
Emotional issues like insecurity or jealousy are very damaging in the lifestyle.
Russ and I were both of this mindset when we met.
Of course we were both 45 with 2 bad relationships under our belt.
And we talked on the computer, (about everything ) before we ever met. (For 3 yrs)
I think that in the swinging lifestyle,
The main ingredients for success are Honesty in communication and a lot of it.
and above all else...
TRUST
I love my husband more than anyone I didn't give birth too.
And I know that he loves me.
That is never an issue.
We entered our lives and the lifestyle at the same time and
Together.
We never play without the others knowledge and presence.
We don't play with people that do.
(i.e. cheaters)
And everyone knows what we want going in.
No surprises, No pressure,
Just Pleasure.
That's what it's all about isn't it ?
Huggs,
Karen
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RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Marriage was fine before. Now it rocks. OMG some of the times we have had since we reached this new level of honesty, which is what we feel swinging really is - let's face it having sex with other people feels great, both physically and to the ego. We get to share it all together too, and it feels natural and very cool.
We consider ourselves very lucky indeed...
Cheers Everyone
D&T |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Karen, You are 100% right and agree with everything you said, Its mostly about love, trust, and being able to play with others knowing there aren't any insecurities within your own relationship but you also don't wanna get stuck with people who do have those trates neither, and one thing I have learned is sometimes you have to get to know the other couple as well because if they don't have it all together then in some ways they can effect your realationship and they way you live the lifestyle.
What caused a break up between me and my ex was another couple who had issues prior and were using me and my ex to help there relationship out which they did not make that clear when we met and the wife kept very close contact with my ex and she only wanted to play with me and my ex and leave her husband out of it, well after being lied to and her saying it was okay w/ her mate it just caused a lot of problems and now being a single male and still living the lifestyle after 4 going on 5yrs, it only made me have the deepest respect for other couples who are strong.... Like I said before start with meet n greets first attend a club or a party with your mate and don't jump into things, you will know if this lifestyle was made for you two after your 2nd or third time around no matter if its at a party or a club. This Lifestyle is for those who are confident, strong, unique, outgoing, that love to explore there inner sexuality, as well as sensuality, and for couples who get into it just for "Sex" and all the wrong reasons, never make it and it will destroy your relationship!! |
RE: Can Swinging Help your Marriage?
Yes it can, it helped ours but you have to be very careful not to make anyone jealous or feel left out or inferior. Discuss and do everything together and that will make the two of you feel like it is mutual and be more comfortable with it. Just remind each other that that person is who you are going home with not the new addition. |
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